This article is meant for all the girlfriends or possibly even boyfriends who are just like me. The holidays are over which means the second half of most hockey seasons are starting up and once again you had to say goodbye to your hockey player and get back to being in a long distance relationship or LDR. I've had countless friends and family tell me “I don't know how you do it?” or “I could never do it”. If you're in an LDR I'm sure you get these questions as well or possibly ask yourself these questions, so here I present to you some tips to get you through the long months of your LDR until you're reunited with your significant other.
Sitting around doing nothing leads to thinking and thinking is a killer. Find a new hobby to occupy your time.
Join a sports league
Or check out our Care Package article and make your SO a surprise gift
Find new ways to work out
Go to a gym
Follow a hockey team or just go to a lot of hockey games
Get a full or part time job
Meet new friends or stay connected to old ones
Start a blog or youtube channel
Watch a lot of movies (Have movie dates with your bf/gf)
Go on lots of adventures
Fairs or carnivals
2. STAY APART OF EACH OTHERS LIVES
Being apart of your SO's life even when your miles apart is critical. Trust me technology will be your best friend
Facetime or Skype- It's not the same as having them there with you but it's a close second. It's always nice to hear and see your person. It's also a great way to have long distance dates. Watch the same movie over facetime or even just call them and have a lunch date through skype. Your computer or phone will soon be a replacement for your SO.
Text message- Even if you're busy it's easy to send your girl or guy a message to let them know you're thinking about them. This way you always know what each other is up to and it eases the tension of being apart as well as there's no surprises.
Packages or Letters- It's always fun to get something in the mail and it's even better when it comes from your gf/bf. Plus boyfriends are always needing something.
Watch their games online- Most teams have some kind of broadcast, video or radio. This way you can still cheer him on and know what's happening in the hockey side of his life.
Whenever possible visit with your SO. Whether you travel there to be with them or just wait it out until a break make sure you have visits and enjoy every minute you have cause your time will be limited.
4. TRUST AND COMMUNICATE
Trust and Communication are key essentials to make any relationship work but they are critical to a LDR. You have to have trust in your partner in everything they do. If you trust them you'll get trust back and it'll make the distance that much easier. And communication is key, always letting each other know what's going on in your everyday life as well as to communicate when you might be having problems.
It may seem hard at times, your SO is never around for important dates, Thanksgiving, New years, valentines day, possibly birthdays and even valentines day. You guys never get to go on dates or just be together. You are going to think it's hard and not worth it but my best advice to you in LDR's as well as any rocky relationship is remember why you love them. Remember why you fell in love with them and everything that you love about them. Love doesn't just go away.
Being apart from your person is always difficult, it's definitely not going to be easy. But if you put in the effort you can make it work. Just remember why you love them. Talk to your friends and family they can ease the pressure, as well there's many members of Hearts who are part of LDR's so don't be afraid to reach out to us. My favourite quote is always “Love don't know what distance is” and I agree, if you love your person no distance can come between you guys. Goodluck fellow LDRers!!!